Married to chaos! Living with an ADHD spouse

Living with an ADHD spouse is the definition of stress, especially if they refuse to recognize they have ADHD. Sometimes, marriage therapy isn’t the answer, or it just straight up hasn’t helped your situation. That is when coaching comes in. Coaching looks at solutions specific to living with someone with ADHD, and the reality is, it probably isn’t just your spouse (What about your kids? Or you?).

Coping with an ADHD Spouse

Living with an ADHD spouse requires some big choices. For example, if you over-accommodate (think: doing their laundry, putting their coffee cup in the dishwasher, and taking care of so many other tasks they don’t complete), over time you teach your spouse to not do these things. At one point you didn’t mind it, or loved helping out. But at this point, you want your life back. The worst part is they have no idea of all the things you do every day. It is almost like having an additional child. You do everything for them because they won’t do it. AND anytime you ask them to take on something, they don’t do it correctly or at all, which means the burden on you becomes so much worse.

ADHD Spouse Burnout: The Burden is Real

Mom burden is real. Mom burden in an ADHD household is astronomical. Counseling requires consistency over a long period of time, and it is too much talk and not enough action. Ain’t nobody got time for that! Coaching targets just the solutions. We don’t focus on the feelings; we focus on how to STOP dealing with the shit that causes those feelings. We help you get your partner back on track. This way you can stop coddling, stop parenting, and stop mothering your spouse so they can learn (maybe for the first time) how to do their own laundry, put away their own damn coffee cup, and stop proclaiming how much they’ve accomplished when we know that it was basically just two tasks over the last six months.

Do You Have a Spouse with ADHD?

Coaching can start now. We are here to change your chaos to calm.

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